What’s it all about?

Welcome to Show Them What You’re Made Of  (STWYMO). The aim of this blog is to promote positive mental health by re-igniting our empathy and strengthening our connections to each other.

Every one of us knows what it feels like to be lonely and isolated from other people. Luckily, for most of us, those feelings are fleeting. But for some of us, they are constant companions, ever-present demons haunting our lives. We all know, if ignored, they can lead on to depression, anxiety, addiction, and suicide.

file000939307933We get caught up in our ordinary lives, racing from homes and families, to jobs and friends. In the midst of all this, we sometimes forget to see the people around us. We like to think of ourselves as empathic, caring, understanding people but sometimes we just forget. Above the noise of life, we just don’t hear the people who need to be heard most.

“The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: Me too.” This is according to Brene Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston, whose viral TED talks on the power of vulnerability and listening to shame partly inspired this blog. (See links on the sidebar.)

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For many years before coming across those talks, I wondered how we could get to a place where we could let down our guards and be more open about our struggles, our failures, our shame so that not one of us would feel that there was no-one who would understand us in our darkest hours.

The idea behind this blog is that brave people share parts of their story so that those who feel they can’t share with anyone might see that, yes, there are others out there who have felt what I feel, who have thought the things that I think; that I am not abnormal, weird, unwell; that there are others in the world who might listen and understand if I choose to let them hear me.

So I invite you to be courageous, share your story with me and help that one scared person who reads it and hears “Me too” in your words.

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The man in the arena – Theodore Roosevelt

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”